Flourishing, naturally

It’s time for us to form a deeper connection with our natural selves

Kim Forrester in the forest

Ten thousand years ago, a small group of human beings took the seeds from wild grain and planted them in lightly tilled soil. This tiny innovation heralded the beginning of civilisation and forever changed our perception of nature, and the role we play within it. Today, this new way of being has become so ingrained that most of us have forgotten who – and what – we truly are.

We are nature.

At a physical level, we share the same biological systems, behaviours and most of the genetic makeup of our fellow mammals. At a molecular level, we are comprised of six main elements, (from oxygen to phosphorous), each of which is sourced from the planet that we live on. At a sub-atomic level, we do not exist as individuals but rather as part of the unified energetic field of the universe.

Before our ancestors in North Africa and South East Asia invented agriculture, human beings were largely undiscernible from other animals on the planet. Our tools were more complicated and our language more expressive but, as with other creatures, our lives were attuned to our environments and our actions were largely instinctive and survival-based.
However, since the advent of agriculture and settlement, human life has evolved to look quite different to anything else on Earth.

Over time, as we developed ways to harness and control nature, humans have come to see themselves as somehow separated from the natural world. Our world-views began to reflect this self-belief and by the time the Old Testament was written, nearly three thousand years ago, the idea was cemented that humans were not only separate from nature, but that they also had the right to rule over it.

For those of us in the western world, this concept is ingrained in us since birth. We are bombarded with the idea that nature is something to be feared, oppressed or exploited; we “conquer” mountains, “break” wild horses and watch Bear Grylls challenge harsh environments on “Man vs. Wild”. As we have removed ourselves further and further from nature, we have also begun to disconnect from our own natural and instinctive needs.

Recent studies have shown that the closer we live to nature, the more inclined we are to maintain strong mental health. For instance, a series of Swedish studies confirmed that city dwellers are around 75% more susceptible to psychosis and up to 20% more likely to develop depression than people who live in rural areas.

The truth is that we are an inherent part of nature and, as such, we have the same needs as other natural beings. Even in our modern world, there are several steps we can take to reconnect with our natural selves and enjoy greater emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing.

Our natural freedom: In recent decades, there has been a wave of concern for the welfare of domesticated and farmed animals. It has become apparent that all creatures deserve the right to live as naturally as possible; with access to sunlight, open spaces and an ability to fulfill natural instincts. This, of course, includes the human creature.

Like all natural beings, we are happiest and healthiest when we are in our natural environment; when we are experiencing a sense of freedom. It is perfectly acceptable to enjoy the comfort and convenience of a modern city, but it is also imperative that we each take time to enjoy sunlight and open spaces, and ensure that our lives are both fulfilling and meaningful.

Our natural rhythms: As civilisation took hold and daily life changed, humans began to rely on man-made concepts of time – the calendar and the clock – and divorced themselves from the natural rhythms of nature. When we remember that we are nature, we give ourselves an opportunity to reconnect with the subtle, natural rhythms of the Earth and the universe.

Everything in nature ebbs and flows, and yet in our busy lives most of us ignore these natural rhythms. Obviously we have remained attuned to the more obvious cycles; the seasons, day and night and, to some extent, the natural changes of the climate. However, there are a multitude of more subtle cycles that most of us are completely unaware of; natural biorhythms, universal synchronicities, and the constant vibration of the energy of which we are formed.

It is interesting to note that several ancient spiritual tools reflect the cyclical nature of the universe. Astrology, numerology and the Tarot are all based on cycles and, if used effectively, can accurately express the way these subtle phases are influencing our lives.

However, even without the use of these tools, it is entirely possible for us each to recognise our natural rhythms; the phases of activity and of rest; of growth and reflection; of deconstruction and regathering. As a natural being, we are constantly subject to these rhythms, and we can enjoy greater wellbeing when we begin to recognise and work with them.

Our natural intelligence: Knowledge, reason and logic have become such an integral part of modern life that many of us have forgotten that these concepts do not fully reflect who we are. In fact, it is logical thought that causes the greatest disconnect from our true nature, and it is in our best interests if we occasionally ‘lose our minds’.

Left brain processes, such as logic and language, are very recent additions to the human mind. (Many right brain processes such as emotion, creativity and intuition were present in our ancestors over 2 million years ago, whereas logic appeared only around 30,000 years ago). Over the last few millennia, our need to know, label and intellectualise has become strong. However, the constant focus on these mental aptitudes has tempted us to ignore our natural instincts to feel, express and intuit.

It is worth remembering that, although highly intelligent, we are still natural beings. Reason, language and logic have evolved in our species in order to enhance our natural state of being, not replace it. Therefore, we can enjoy greater happiness and wellbeing when we allow time to quieten our mind, accept the world without labelling and make more intuitive choices.

The last ten thousand years has seen a remarkable shift in the way that humans live, think and view the world. However, beneath the innovations of our intellectual evolution, we are still natural beings with instinctive needs and desires. As the stresses and diseases of modern life are showing us, civilisation does not offer us all that we need. Intellectual prowess and material success are not the answer to contentment.

In order to be completely fulfilled we, as humans, must acknowledge our instinctive needs and desires. It is time for us to reject the misconception that nature is separate from us, and to acknowledge our inherent responsibility to respect our planet and all other beings. It is time for us to remove the intellectual blinkers and remember who we really are. We may have fancy tools, comfortable homes and complicated language but we are made, like all other life forms, by this beautiful planet. We are nature.


2024 has been my Year of Living Deeper and throughout December, I’m exploring the importance of connecting more deeply with nature, and our natural selves.

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Spiritual connection and profound wellbeing

We need to make space for spirituality, to truly thrive

Ever feel like you’ve got the building blocks of a good life in place – your physical and emotional wellbeing is carefully nurtured – but something’s still missing in your life? You may find the answer lies in a spiritual connection.

Research has shown that there is a profound link between spiritual connection (religious and non-religious) and enhanced wellbeing. Those who lean into a form of faith or connection with ‘something greater’ tend to be happier, more resilient, and more connected with their environment and communities than those who don’t ascribe to any form of spiritual expression.

The challenge we face, of course, is integrating spirituality into a technological, educated, science-based world. Ironically, it is recent scientific understandings that may unlock the door to deeper spiritual awareness.

Spirituality transcends simple definitions, encompassing diverse beliefs and practices that nourish our inner life, anchor us in troubled times, and imbue life with meaning, personal growth, and connection.

Spiritual expression is deeply rooted in our history, evolving alongside human culture and society. (Some evidence suggests that spirituality is older than humanity itself, as spiritual burial practices were present in both ancient humans and their Neanderthal neighbours!)

Throughout history, different cultures and religions have placed spirituality at the heart of their existence. From ancient rituals to contemporary practices, spirituality has been a source of community, meaning, and resilience. Spirituality has the remarkable ability to unite people across differing backgrounds, fostering a sense of belonging and shared purpose.

The Health Benefits of Spirituality

Research highlights that spiritual practices can significantly reduce anxiety, depression, and stress. Engaging in spiritual activities provides a sense of peace and balance, fostering mental resilience and emotional health. Furthermore, spirituality also impacts physical health, facilitating better immune function and longer lifespans. This holistic approach to health integrates body, mind, and spirit, demonstrating that our overall wellbeing is deeply interconnected.

But the benefits are not just physical and emotional. Spiritual practices also promote self-awareness and personal development. By exploring spiritual paths, individuals can discover deeper insights about themselves, leading to greater fulfilment and growth.

Despite these incredible wellbeing benefits, the question remains: is there room for spirituality in the modern world? Are we too educated, advanced, and civilised to believe in anything outside the boundaries of science?

Where our science falls short, spiritual experience provides a framework to explore the mysteries of life, the universe, and everything. It allows us to connect with the unknown and find meaning in what lies beyond our understanding.

Our Scientific Blindspots

Interestingly, the more we learn about the universe, the more we realise how much we don’t know. This scientific blindspot highlights the importance of spirituality in filling the gaps in our understanding.

Consider the existence of Dark Matter and Dark Energy, which together make up more than 95% of the universe. These mysterious substances are invisible and undetectable, yet their gravitational effects are unmistakable. Despite extensive research, their true nature remains a mystery and we are ignorant of how we are impacted by their very existence.

Similarly, the probable presence of many other dimensions challenges our materialistic view of life. Theoretical physics suggests there could be more than ten dimensions, most of them beyond our conscious experience. These dimensions could hold answers to many fundamental questions, but they are currently beyond our reach.

Another profound enigma is the nature of consciousness. Despite advancements in neuroscience, we still don’t fully understand how consciousness arises from the brain’s physical processes, and some renowned scientists have begun to ponder whether consciousness is not a byproduct of existence, but a foundational building block of the material world.

Where our science falls short, spiritual experience provides a framework to explore the mysteries of life, the universe, and everything. It allows us to connect with the unknown and find meaning in what lies beyond our understanding.

Rather than being at odds with science, spirituality complements it by addressing the experiences and connections science has yet to explain. In the modern world, spirituality is not only relevant but essential because it helps us navigate the uncertainties of existence and fosters a sense of wonder, hope, and connection.

Research shows that the transformative power of spirituality – in whatever form resonates with you – can significantly enhance personal wellbeing. Whether through prayer, meditation, ritual, transcendence, inner reflection, or a connection with nature, embracing spirituality can lead to a healthier, more balanced, more connected, and more fulfilling life.

There are several simple practices that help us reconnect with the spiritual side of life:

  • Meditation: Meditation helps to calm the mind and connect with your inner self.
  • Mindfulness: Being present in the moment can enhance your awareness and sense of connection.
  • Journalling: Writing about your thoughts and feelings can provide insight into your spiritual journey.
  • Nature Walks: Spending time in nature can foster a sense of peace and connectedness.
  • Yoga: Combines physical postures with breath control and meditation to promote harmony.
  • Reading spiritual texts: Engaging with spiritual literature can offer guidance and inspiration.
  • Acts of kindness: Helping others can deepen your sense of empathy and interconnectedness.

I am making 2024 the Year of Living Deeper and throughout November, I’m exploring the profound wellbeing benefits of spiritual connection.

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Vulnerability and Help-Seeking

Helping hands

Is it time to rethink our obsession with self-reliance?

Helping hands

Help is not a ‘four-letter word’. Yet many of us recoil from the concept and cringe at the idea of reaching out for support when we need it most. We feel unworthy and hesitant; as if we will be seen as incapable or a burden on others.

The truth is that self-reliance has become a big deal in many developed countries. We love stories about self-made individuals, pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps* and survivalists like Bear Grylls toughing it out in the jungle.

This idea is deeply rooted in Western culture, thanks to works like Ralph Waldo Emerson’s 1841 essay, Self-Reliance, in which Emerson praised those who thrive through challenges without relying on others. Since then, the concept has come to underpin our collective idea of strength and success.

*Note: The phrase “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” originally described trying to do something impossible, like lifting yourself off the ground by pulling on your own bootstraps. It highlights the absurdity of achieving success entirely on your own, without any help.

But maybe we’ve taken this self-sufficiency thing too far. By idolising self-reliance, we are largely ignoring important human traits like vulnerability, compassion, and the need for mutual support. And we are undermining our ability to thrive, in the process.

In an experiment by psychologist, Stanley Milgram, university students were so afraid to ask for a seat on the subway that they felt physically unwell.

In a UK study, two-thirds of high school maths students revealed that they would rather struggle alone than ask for help from teachers, friends or family. Revealingly, most of these students believed they should already have the answers.

An Australian survey found that 40% of new mothers feel pressured to always appear happy and in control, while a large majority of these same mothers admitted to privately feeling unsure, overwhelmed, and isolated.

These studies highlight an unspoken yet disturbing reality about modern society and that is, in developed nations in particular, we have come to view vulnerability and help-seeking as a weakness. We have come to regard self-sufficiency as the single greatest factor of success. And we have forgotten that the human experience is often defined, not by how hard someone persevered and toiled, but by their personal luck or providence.

Communities of Support

Philosophers have long contemplated why we chose, as a species, to live in communities. Why form social groups when we can easily sustain ourselves alone? Philosopher, Martha Nussbaum, maintains that we form communities because of a desire to live “with and toward others, with both benevolence and justice”. In other words, she says, we simply cannot imagine flourishing as individuals without supporting each other through life’s troubles.

Kimberley Brownlee of the University of Warwick, in the UK, agrees with this assessment and believes our need to be there for each other – what she terms “supportive social contact, interaction and inclusion” – is so vital to our personal wellbeing that it should be deemed a basic human right.

Interestingly, these philosophical views are backed up by anthropologists who suggest that one of the main reasons humans have flourished on this planet is because of our cooperative behaviours; our ability to help, support, and share new knowledge with each other.

Needing help is not a weakness; it is an inevitable by-product of a fickle human existence, and offering and receiving help is the cornerstone of both personal well-being and a well-functioning society.

So, sure, having the courage and tenacity to take charge of your circumstances is vital. Self-reliance, self-belief, and self-responsibility are admirable personal traits and should be nurtured and encouraged in all of us.

But the idea that we can succeed in life without any life-lines, guidance, or support is a dangerous myth. Help is not a four-letter word — instead, it must be seen for what it is: a natural birthright and our greatest responsibility to each other.

Struggling to ask for help?

  • Embrace vulnerability: It’s normal to need help. Seeking support is a sign of strength.
  • Avoid self-sabotage: Choose your helpers wisely and avoid those who might dismiss your needs.
  • Don’t underestimate potential helpers: Ask those who seem capable of helping without prejudging their willingness.
  • Be honest and direct: Clear requests are more likely to be met with assistance.
  • Allow for “no”: Sometimes people can’t help, but that doesn’t invalidate your needs. Keep asking until you find the support you deserve.


I am making 2024 the Year of Living Deeper and in October, I’m delving deeply into the wellbeing benefits of vulnerability and help-seeking.

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The Wondrous Wellbeing Benefits of Awe

Why everyday wonder can help you thrive

A few weeks ago, as I stood beneath the dazzling display of the Aurora Australis (the Southern Lights) in Dunedin, New Zealand, I was overcome with a profound sense of awe.

The experience of awe is a truly remarkable phenomenon – a feeling of wonder, amazement, and a deep appreciation for something greater than ourselves. And as it turns out, this powerful emotion can have a profound impact on our overall wellbeing.

The Transformative Power of Awe

Research has shown that experiencing awe can bring about a wealth of benefits for our mental, emotional, and physical health. Studies have found that awe can boost positive emotions and life satisfaction, reduce stress and negative feelings, increase feelings of connectedness and humility, promote altruistic behaviors, and even enhance our focus and cognitive abilities. Awe can even make time feel like it’s slowing down, make us more aware of our environment, and has been linked to reduced inflammation in the body.

But perhaps most remarkably, awe can also increase our sense of life meaning and purpose. This is because awe experiences activate the vagus nerve, which is connected to various aspects of our wellbeing, including social connection, emotional regulation, and physical health.

Given the incredible benefits of awe, it’s important to find ways to incorporate awe-inspiring experiences into our daily lives. This could be as simple as taking a moment to appreciate the beauty of nature, such as watching a breathtaking sunset or gazing up at the stars. Visiting art galleries, museums, or architectural wonders can also evoke a profound sense of awe and wonder.

Even engaging in activities like reading thought-provoking books or listening to powerful music can trigger awe-like experiences. The key is to remain open and receptive to the world around us, and to take the time to truly appreciate the wonder and vastness of the universe.

By cultivating a sense of awe in our lives, we can not only enhance our personal wellbeing but also foster a greater sense of connection and compassion towards others. So, the next time you find yourself in the presence of something truly awe-inspiring, take a moment to pause, breathe, and soak in the experience. Your mind, body, and soul will thank you for it.

The Southern Lights over Dunedin
The Aurora Australis from my home in Dunedin, New Zealand

Everyday ways to invite awe into your life

  • Spend time in nature, observing the beauty of the natural world
  • Visit museums, art galleries, or architectural wonders that inspire a sense of wonder
  • Read books or listen to music that challenge your perspectives and expand your horizons
  • Engage in activities that allow you to appreciate the vastness of the universe, such as stargazing
  • Seek out experiences that remind you of the interconnectedness of all things
  • Cultivate a sense of gratitude and appreciation for the small, everyday moments in your life

I am making 2024 the Year of Living Deeper and in September, I’m exploring the incredible benefits of awe-inspiring experience.

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The Benefits of a Mindful Life

Clock

Well-being is here, now

Clock

Forty-one and a half million minutes; 28,835 days or 692,040 hours. That, friends, is the length of an average human lifetime.

And when it comes to living deeply – fully – the biggest question is: how many of those minutes are you fully experiencing? How many moments is your focus in the ‘here and now’ without judgement or distraction? How many minutes of your life are you living mindfully?

The term ‘mindfulness’ has become synonymous with meditation, and is often misconstrued and misunderstood. But at its core, mindfulness is about paying attention. It’s the practice of being acutely aware of your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations, without getting caught up in the stories or judgements your mind creates.

Mindfulness encourages you to simply observe your experience with a curious, non-reactive stance, rather than getting swept away by the constant stream of mental activity.

This might sound simple, but in our modern world, it’s all too easy to be distracted, stressed, and disconnected from the present moment. (Monkey-mind, anyone?) We’re often caught up in worrying about the past or anxiously anticipating the future, missing out on the richness of the here and now. Mindfulness provides a counterbalance, inviting us to slow down, tune in, and fully inhabit our lives.

Cultivating a mindful mindset has been shown to have a profound impact on our overall health and happiness, stimulating a wide range of incredible benefits, including:

  • Reduced stress and anxiety
  • Improved focus and concentration
  • Boosted immune function
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Better pain management
  • Enhanced emotional regulation
  • Stronger and more fulfilling relationships

That’s not a bad pay-off for simply paying attention!

Cultivating a Mindful Life

I often say, the keys to well-being are usually simple (just not effortless!) and mindfulness is no exception. There are numerous, uncomplicated ways to practice being present and aware during the minutes of your day:

1. Meditation

The foundation of mindfulness is often a seated meditation practice, where you focus your attention on the breath or a particular sensation in the body. Even just a few minutes of daily meditation can have a profound impact, helping to calm the mind and cultivate a greater sense of presence.

2. Mindful Breathing

Throughout the day, take a few moments to pause and tune into your breath. Notice the sensation of the air moving in and out, without trying to control or change it. This simple practice can be done anywhere, anytime, and can help you reconnect with the present moment.

3. Body Scans

Slowly and systematically bring your attention to different parts of the body, noticing any sensations or feelings that arise. This mindfulness exercise can help you cultivate a deeper embodied awareness and release physical tension.

4. Mindful Walking

As you move through your day, make a conscious effort to be fully present with each step. Pay attention to the sensations in your feet, the rhythm of your breath, and your surroundings. Mindful walking can be a beautiful way to integrate mindfulness into your daily routine.

5. Mindful Eating

When it’s time for a meal, slow down and savour each bite. Notice the textures, flavours, and aromas of your food, and be fully present with the experience of nourishing your body. Mindful eating can help you develop a healthier relationship with food and a greater appreciation for the present moment.

Mindfulness is a powerful practice that can transform our lives in profound ways. By cultivating a greater sense of presence and awareness, we can reduce stress, boost our physical and mental health, and unlock a deeper sense of connection and fulfilment. While it may take some time and practice to develop a mindful mindset, the benefits are well worth the effort. So why not take a deep breath, tune in to the present moment, and explore the richness of a more mindful life?

Be here. Now.


I am making 2024 the Year of Living Deeper and throughout August, I’m turning my attention to the richness of each moment and the joys of living more mindfully.

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